Have you ever felt like all you do is discipline your kids?
I learned an important lesson one time about this from my dog. At a time when I was rather busy, it seemed that my dog (then a puppy) decided to go on a binge of getting into the trash every single night. This put me in the position of having daily negative interaction with him. And because I was a bit busy, I wasn’t spending much time having any other interaction with him. What do you think became the nature of his feelings towards me at that time? Naturally, he only associated me with his being in trouble.
I realized that the same can happen in parenting. If you believe in disciplining your children, as I do, then you will find yourself at times having to do so. And at times, it will seem that one of your children seems to be getting in trouble all the time! Have you ever tired of disciplining your children every time you turn around? I know I have.
The answer is not to stop disciplining your children. This is a very strong temptation, but it is not the answer.
But if the main interaction you have with your children is discipline, that is what they are going to associate with you. They are going to see you only as the one who spanks them! That is not what you want them to think of you!
So what can you do?
I think that one absolutely essential part of the answer is to make sure that discipline is not the only/main interaction you have with your children. A healthy relationship with your children (of course!!) includes far more than this.
And when you find that a child goes through a spell of needing a bit more discipline than usual, make sure that you account for that by spending a bit extra time with that child in a positive context. Take a little extra session of fun with him during the day. This will go a long way in countering whatever potential negative buildup in his spirit that might occur otherwise as a result of the extra discipline.
I have found that this is very important in keeping a happy home. Whenever I neglect this positive side of things too much, the home is not nearly as cheerful. I hope this thought helps you in raising your children, too, and in keeping a happy home.